Which of us hasn’t dreamed of finally finding and keeping our perfect relationship? What if we are in Relationship a partnership that is confusing and always changing? How do we cope with the loss and heartache relationships can sometimes bring? What if we don’t seem to be attracting any kind of intimate bad reactions at all?
The working mechanics of good relationships are for many of us one of the greatest mysteries of life. It is a secret each of us wishes to unravel from the day we are aware there is more than one of us around. Why do community bad reactions — something we are all engaged in every day, every minute, every second of our own lives — sometimes seem so challenging, complicated, confusing, difficult, and mysterious?
The grade of our partners with others actually mirrors the grade of the relationships we have with ourselves. Do we know who we are, and do we like who that is? Do we believe we are worthy and deserve unconditional love? While once in a while know how we would like someone to love us, do we love ourselves that way already? Do we trust and accept all parts of ourselves? The bottom line for most all of us is we simply would like to be loved and accepted for who we are, for our real selves.
MALE AND FEMALE DESING TEMPLATES
Even as change our inner definition or template of our own male and female selves to a place of balance and self-acceptance, we are able to attract someone who is more reflective of our own true counterpart. Even if we are balanced with inner masculine depiction, if we do not like our own femininity, we might be unable to create a truly balanced relationship for ourselves.
One aspect many people do not give much thought to is that we look to our partners to reflect issues with ourselves back to us. For example, if we are girls, our partner is holding a place for us so we can better understand the girly part of ourselves. If we are a male, our partner is holding a place for us to understand the masculine part of ourselves. Although this might be the contrary way most people view their relationships, how, if we were girls, would we be better able to understand what type of woman we were unless someone could reflect it back to us even as interact with them?
THE TASK OF ANY RELATIONSHIP
The task of any relationship would be to find ourselves, to understand ourselves, to be the total and natural selves we already are. The only true relationship we ever really have is the one we have with ourselves. Everything else, every other interaction, whether we would realize it or not, is simply a depiction. As long as we resist being our natural, balanced selves, the real us, we continue to always attract relationships that will aid to remind us of what and who we are not. Combating who we are will, therefore, usually attracts relationships that are unfulfilling, or ones where we will need to work very hard. Since they can be fully and completely who we are, we then attract relationships that reflect back to us the bounties of our own creative being. It is the age old adage: What we put out is what we get back.
FUNCTIONING HALF COMPLETE
Many of us function as if we are only half complete. If we project the vibration of half of an individual, looking around for someone else to complete us, we attract an incomplete relationship. The resulting interaction with anyone attracted through this industry in most cases come up short of what we ideally desire. Getting in any interaction from the viewpoint we need the partnership to feel complete, results in the partnership continuing to reflect and remind us of our own belief in our incompleteness. What we will have is a partnership consisting of two half people, truly satisfying to neither person. When we know we are a relationship unto ourselves, complete and sufficient within ourselves, we set up a vibration that attracts someone with those same qualities and assurance. Too many times people find out long, wonderful lists of all the attributes they wish their perfect partner to have. The question to ask is, are we all those ideas? Do we have all those attributes? Unless we are able to reflect the type of vibrational being we choose to attract, how will we ever be seen and recognized by someone who does?
WHAT DO WE ATTRACT IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS?
We always attract our definition of what we think we are capable of attracting, no matter what may be on our wish list. The first question we should ask ourselves (the most basic question for any relationship) is: What do we get out of it? What do we get out of having a relationship with so and so? Secondly, what did we learn about ourselves since they can be in that relationship? We primarily attract situations to ourselves that induce bad reactions, allowing us to continue to accelerate, serve, and learn who we are. We can do this with ease, love, love, and joy, or through the school of hard knocks. The selection is always ours.
RELATIONSHIPS ARE OPPORTUNITIES TO SHARE WITH YOU
The reason for relating to someone else is for the opportunity to share with you who we are. Approaching a relationship as a way to share attracts individuals who reflect our belief in our own completeness. When our relationships are set up this way, we are able to interact with each other as two complete individuals coming together to share with you experiences. We will both know and experience the idea of personal fulfillment.
THE RESULTS OF EXPECTATIONS AND JUDGMENTS
When we put expectations or value judgments on the outcome of our relationships, we never actually get to feel the real reason we created the particular interaction in the first place. For this reason, it is important to accept relationships for what they are. If we invalidate what we have drawn into our lives, we are really invalidating ourselves.